We always tell ourselves we would’ve known better.
No, life doesn’t work like that. I believe, “everything happens for a reason.”
You may not understand things by now, but soon enough…
There will be some point in our lives where we’ll get to remember things and wish we could go back to these days and change them. Regrets happen and you have to acknowledge that. Maybe, what we don’t realize is that our lives depend on how we respond to certain situations. Our lives greatly depend on our choices and decisions. We all commit mistakes but that doesn’t mean we have to keep repeating them. One mistake should be a reminder, it should serve as a lesson to do better and be wiser along the way in the path we will take.
I’ve always lived a life full of regrets. I’ve grown to be independent. Back when I was in kindergarten, I went to school all by myself. Even when I was in grade school, I had no parents to take me to school and fetch me. I have to walk and ride a cab on my own. I’ve always been independent. I learn and do things on my own. I have this habit of not asking for help from anyone. I can manage on my own. I figure things out on my own because I got used to doing it.
When I was in high school, I experienced so many things and ticked off goals from my bucket list. I went through and surpassed things on my own like I’ve always been. I’ve conquered heartbreaks and problems without my loved ones knowing about it. Now that I am in college, I thought it would always be the same. This is the time where I’ve told myself, I could’ve known better, but what else can I do? It’s now or never. I have to compromise and sacrifice because life’s not the same for me anymore. College really made me regret a lot and I wasn’t ready for all the self-doubts and anxieties, tears and challenges.
Now that my first semester in college is almost over, I want to share these top five tips and leave you pieces of advice that I wish I could’ve given my old self during the first day of classes or my pre-college self/pre-freshman life:
- Do not act based on impulse. – I always hear this from my friends and I always tell my friends about this but I can’t even apply this to myself. One thing I’ve later realized after entering college is to not make important life decisions just because you are excited or sad, or purely based on emotions. Just because it makes you happy, doesn’t imply that you go for it. You have to think of the decisions you will make over and over again. Remember to not act based on impulse. You’ll have less regrets if you make personal decisions carefully.
- Not all opportunities are meant to be pursued. – A once in a lifetime opportunity or a knock in the door is not a guarantee of success and happiness. No matter what happens, go back to your reasons, to your original plans. Not everything should be grabbed. Doesn’t mean it’s great for someone, the same will be for you. We all have different situations in life. Just because it’s smooth-sailing for others, doesn’t mean it is also for you. Some sail through the oceans or seas by boat and paddle while some are riding yachts. Think about your intentions well and what you want to achieve at the end of the day. It’s not the lives of others that dictate the life you will be living. Keep this in mind: Even if it’s difficult for you, for as long as it’s making you happy and lets you sleep peacefully, go for it!
- Stop comparing yourself to others. – Remind yourself that a little progress is still progress. Before you enter the battle, prepare yourself for the long days and the sleepless nights. We all work on things differently and you are a work in progress. Do not be too hard on yourself just because others are doing better than you. Your time will come, take it slowly, and celebrate the little things.
- Be patient and always trust the process. – Even if things aren’t working the way you want them to be, be prepared and be patient. Understand that in college, you’ll go through many challenges and you’ll have a lot of expectations for yourself, but don’t push yourself at the edge of the cliff. Trust the process and soon, things will work their way out and everything will be in your favor.
- Enjoy every moment. Do not forget to rest. – Whatever there is to come, enjoy every second and every minute of it. Enjoy the process. There will be pain and suffering, but you won’t leave without a degree so be kinder to yourself. After all the work, do not deprive yourself of rest and breaks. Do not forget to take care of yourself. Your well-being must be the top-priority in this journey.
There’s no use to regretting. We have started from the bottom, now we’re here. Love yourself more and may you continue to grow by grace through faith. We only live once so make every second count. I hope you’ll take all of these lessons later on in your journey. Forgive yourself if you haven’t known better. You’ve come this far because of you. You are the reason behind everything. Great job!
If DevCom has 4Es, I also have mine but 4Ps, which stands for: Pag-andam, Pahulay, Padayon, Paglambo which means in English, “Prepare, rest, continue and move forward, succeed.” Padayon para sa atong mga puhon! Fighting!